“If you say, I love you, then you have already fallen in love with language, which is already a form of break up and infidelity.”
— Jean Baudrillard, Cool Memories

“To love someone is to isolate him from the world, wipe out every trace of him, dispossess him of his shadow, drag him into a murderous future. It is to circle around the other like a dead star and absorb him into black light.”
— Jean Baudrillard, Fatal Strategies

“Are you there to play or not?”
— Mary Gaitskill, This Is Pleasure

Hello!

Welcome to an early peek at my forthcoming book FATAL DATING TIPS, a very practical guide to finding real sex and love in an unreal age, coming from Sublation Press in 2024. It’s also a semi-memoir about my romantic errors, and what I learnt and did not learn about attraction from French thinker Jean Baudrillard and his books FATAL STRATEGIES, SEDUCTION and THE PERFECT CRIME.

I’m the author of the novel TWICE and the memoir MY REJECTIONS. I also have a video podcast, FATAL DATES, where I live out my tips with dates including pick-up artists, porn fans, podcasters, academics, authors and Boris Groys.

Check out my YouTube channel here.